Worry your way to a solution

Take the pressure off yourself - delay making crucial decisions.
You may find it hard to think of anything else when you are caught up worrying about some future decision. Realise that sometimes you can choose not to make a decision for the time being. Say to yourself "I'm not ready to make a decision on that yet. I'll think about it again in 5 days time", and put the date in your diary.

Getting yourself too worked up with worry can have a detrimental effect on your mood, sleep patterns, memory and problem-solving ability. Dwelling on a problem can make it harder to find a solution. By giving yourself 'time off' from thinking about it - you'll find you get a greater perspective and find solutions easier. Writing down your worries and putting them aside until you decide to deal with them, allows you to put them to rest for the time being.

Worry your way to a solution, not more problems!
Chronic worrying can quickly make you feel helpless, as you imagine more and more problems until you reach the point where you can't possibly solve them all. It usually goes a bit like "If that happens, then this will happen, and then that will be a disaster!"

Instead, try challenging worry-provoking thoughts with questions like "What evidence is there for that?" and "Just how likely is that, based on my past experience?" Learn to distinguish between possibility and probability. It's your mind - take control of your thoughts!

Worrying is about balancing the odds of whether or not to do something. If you have to do it, then what you need is preparation, not worry. For example, with public speaking, prepare intellectually by learning your material, and emotionally by doing relaxation and visualisation, or self-hypnosis.

The Bottomline:

Whether making a business decision, thinking about the kids or fretting over a relationship, worrying is useful, but only when it's done well. Worrying well saves time, energy, and emotional discomfort and enables you to make better decisions. So, to avoid excessive and ineffective worry, you can employ the techniques above and learn to better tolerate uncertainty.

By Roger Elliott

i can't worry less....am kind of person who worries alot about everything, i even get health problems and eating disorders becuz of worrying too much to take care of my self....

i worry for others alot ...and i worry about what to cook 2morrow, or what to do next 3 hours, or what well happen when am gonna visit family after few months...

i worry 2 much, and this aricle helped me in directing my worriness to productive directions...hope it helps you too girls

This is a great thread!!

I worry to much as well, i get my eye pierced and now i am worried about what everyone will think. I always think about things even if it is over.

I worry myself into tears sometimes! it is bad

thats exactly what i feel!!!!....i sometimes cry my selfout...

it feels really bad...but am trying to let go and think about different stuff that won't lead my into worrying...

thanx sis for replying, and am glade that you liked my thread...

PS: about your eye piercing, if u believe it's fine and would look lovely on you "by the way it looks great", then you shouldn't worry about it....

[worry no more]

yea well i get a new clothes and worry if it looks good! It is so bad!

Thanks everyone likes it and i do to, i just get worried.

I am also glad i am not the only one that has a worring problem!

great thread!!! i love it!!! psycology and philosophy are my favourite!!!
Yes!!! i worry for everything and for anyone!!! i worried all the time and i noticed that i've become more stresfull,more annoyed,i wasn't happy with myself and with my life,my hair started to fall,i started to gain weight so that's why i decided to take a break and just start a new life!!!
believe me girls-it's not worth it!!!
Stress SUCKS!!!

ohhh, that happend to me 2, my hair started to fall 2....we must not worry anymore....

not worth it

umm thnx candy i'm in the middle of stress these days and its just killing and even in my dreams i dream about whats bothering me everyday
although i didn't read the article cuz i g2g now but i know it'll help me

thnx again candy